26 thoughts on “Feruz A Grand Old Team To Play For?

  1. Okay, here’s some considerations no one has sought to uncover. This article has inadvertently thrown up some brutal comments in some of the Celtic pages its appeared in. The general consensus is the young man in question is just a c*nt. Even more so because he f***ed Celtic off…Stated with shallow perspective, the article proclaims “This was a kid we’d rescued. A kid we’d taken care of. Celtic had invested not only time and money in this footballer’s talents … we’d looked after his family, we’d shown him the love”??? Now here’s the thing. This young man can’t be rescued by football. We know this because he’s demonstrated his inability to form attachments anywhere he goes. WHY??? Oh yeah, because he’s a c#*t!!
    But that’s too simplistic an answer though. As stated James, you’ve followed his career and found that Feruz is demonstrating the same behavior everywhere he goes. Yeah?? As a journalist, I’d be asking the deeper questions. Not just delivering verdicts on surface information available and conclude “He will only have himself to blame”. I’d have been more interested in the reasons for the repeated harmful cycle.
    Like most, I don’t know this young man personally, but let’s begin by contextualizing what we do actually know.
    This young man was removed from his support network, culture, family and thrown into refugee/asylum status at the age of 10 years old. So what’s that got to do with anything?? You’ll have to trust me on this one OR delve into some ‘exiled child psychology’, where answers will quickly surface. Such a trauma F**KS UP the mind of a child. Across the board, there is a pattern of mild to severe attachment dysfunction issues emanating from exile (defendant on the child’s resilience). Weans from 0-5ish yrs old take to their new environment like a duck to water(eventually). The younger they are, the more optimal is the outcome from this horrible and deeply disturbing adversity. However from 7 upwards, a wean has already established who they are e.g. psychosocial functions in the environment they know best. So let’s try to give some perspective on what exile really means.

    To be thrown into exile as a child is akin to that feeling when you lost your mammy in the supermarket. Can you remember that feeling??? If you can recall the absolute terror as your world falls apart around you, until such times you’re re-united one minute later. Now, times that terror by a thousand and sustain it for years, not just one minute. That’s what exile is to a child. And with it comes feeling like a stranger, loneliness, missing, longing, guilt, shame, separation and loss, sorrow, language degradation, value degradation, inferiority, a sense of non-identity, rootlessness, bitterness, suspicion, prejudice – to be prejudiced, to feel prejudice, and the scapegoat syndrome.
    Coping mechanisms in response to the above vary. But one of them is delusions of grandeur. Keep lying to yourself and you’ll believe your own bulls*it. No one human being comes out the other end of transition, unscarred. I’ve seen it in my field of work, I’ve seen it in exiled communities. The older weans don’t fare so well, socially and psychologically. This young man is scarred by his experience of exile. He’s become emotionally stuck at a crucial developmental stage and from it now demonstrates extreme narcissistic indicators and major attachment dysfunctions. This is a common consequence of exile on a child of his age.

    Rather than give him a public flogging, maybe ask the clinical questions given that he’s demonstrating the same behaviors everywhere he goes. Celtic, Barca, Bayern or any of the world footballing giants could sign him…but he aint got the tools to change…least not until he’s been properly saved from himself. And no amount of footballing talent or opportunity will fix that, sadly. His inability to make attachments is a state of affairs that is FAR FAR from “his own fault”.
    (Written by a 42 year old man, exiled at 2 years old and who im told, cried to return home on the stairway of his new house every day for the first 6 months. Imagine I was 10yrs old like Feruz)

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